Mothers! Protect your children if you love them.
Sounds crazy, right? But it’s not. Many pediatricians have become Progressive activists. How many of you are being groomed by these political agents? Let me describe the grooming process: when your child is about 8 or nine, the pediatrician starts introducing the idea that at some time in the near future, they will want to spend time alone with your child- to get them ready for the time when they first go to a doctor on their own, without their parents. Sounds cozy, huh? A pediatrician that cares so much about your kid that they want to help ease them into their first, adult solo physical checkup.
Then, at around 11 years old, the pediatrician will actually ask the parent to step out of the room ‘for a few minutes’. Then at around 12, the pediatrician will tell you that you must leave the room when the kid is 13 years old. MY pediatrician just blatantly LIED to me and told me that Washington State Law demands that I leave the room.
Now, Parents, I can tell you that I always told my pediatricians, “No. That will not happen with my daughter. I will be here to ensure that she is ok. “ They always were annoyed, but left it be. I have a new pediatrician who just told me that I MUST leave the room when my daughter turns 13- which will happen in August. I was enraged. I told her that this would never happen. Further, I asked her why she & other pediatricians kept demanding this.
She asked, “Don’t you want your daughter to trust her doctor?”
Sputtering, I asked, “What does that have to do with me leaving?”
She said, “Well, this is just what we think is best for kids at this age. She might want to talk to me about things that she can’t talk about in front of you.”
I stated, “Look. She is my responsibility and I don’t ever leave her alone with any adult. Further, how dare you imply that my daughter should trust you more than me?” I said, “The only things you would talk to her, without me being present, are pregnancy, STDs, birth control and abortion.” She just lifted an eyebrow. “These are critical things in my daughter’s life and they belong under my care. Shame on you! Shame on you for attempting to get between my daughter & me.”
She said, “But I always tell the children to bring the adults in on everything. I ensure to include the parents in on as much as possible.”
Flabbergasted, I asked, “Are you saying that if my daughter was pregnant and wanted an abortion- but didn’t want you to tell me, you would tell me anyway?”
She ducked her pretty little head and said, “Well… I would have to respect her privacy rights according to the law, of course.”
I asked, “What law are you referencing, doctor? I know there are laws in some states that allow a 13 year old to seek an abortion without parental consent. But what law are you referencing that would force me out of the room at a pediatrician’s office?”
She said, “I have no idea- you can talk to my office manager. This is just how I want to run my practice. It’s what I believe in.”
I took my kids and left that practice immediately. When I got home, of course I reviewed all relevant current law. I found NOTHING to verify her claims. She LIED to me about the law in her need to get my daughter under her influence.
You know, Parents, my first objection was all about my daughter’s safety. While this particular doctor is female, there are many male pediatricians too. Imagine leaving your precious 13 year old daughter, many of whom are fully developed physically, ALONE with a male doctor. Child predators intentionally take professional positions where they have trusted relationships with children- priests, pastors, coaches, Boy Scout Leaders, teachers, etc. There is no WAY I would leave my girl alone with any adult for this reason. But being politically educated alerted me immediately to what the TRUE intention of this new pediatric protocol. Note that when she attempted to force me from the room, she never stated the reason why. Only when I confronted her on the matter did she admit it.
My daughter told me that her school counselor had a group session (unbeknownst to me) with all the 6th graders last year where she told them that if they needed help for ANY REASON (parental interpretation: considering sex, birth control, suicide, murder, drugs or abortion), they could come to her and she didn’t need to tell their parents.
Parents, BEWARE of pediatricians & school counselors. There is ZERO law that forces you to allow them access to your child. They are aware of some states’ law that allows your child to seek their services without your knowledge. And not only do they go out of their way to tell your 13 year olds this information, but they do it behind your back. If they didn’t go out of their way to tell your kids they could have abortions & birth control at 13 without your knowledge, your kid would never know. They are making YOU into the enemy to be feared. YOU are the one to be distrusted. And THEY are the good guys who will have your kid’s back. But when the inevitable physical & emotional harm is done, they leave you with the pain, sorrow and medical bills. And they leave your kid with nothing.
I agree with many of your views, and i think it is crazy that they try to cut parents out of a kids personal life. However, you refference laws a lot, but i didn’t see that there was any information on it. They are refferencing HIPAA. The Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act of 1996 (HIPAA) Privacy and Security Rules. This says that your child is entitled to 100% confedentiality from their parents (for certain topics, such as sexual activity) begining at the age of 12. You can get more info here: http://www.hhs.gov/ocr/privacy/ i believe everyone should be informed.
Thanks, Mel, you’re right and thank you.
Don’t forget Dad’s care about their children too now a days. Have you noticed that there is rarely a loving quote or much of anything that refer to us fathers. Maybe you can look into that and blog as well. Thanks for the advice.
You are so right! Fathers do need to be honored! Especially if they are still married to our mothers!
Kindred spirit, I bow to you. http://oilstories.wordpress.com/2010/03/06/bad-mommy/
Thank you for the information. I came across your blog while trying to research what counselors are allowed to ask your children. I have a eight year old that came home and told me that her school counselor is asking all the kids if their parents smoke or drink at home, and if they know anyone that smokes and drinks. I find this line of questioning very inapropriate to be asking eight year olds about their family. I understand the need to protect kids from harm, but really, what parent does not have a drink every once in a while?
I am a firm believer that it is no ones business what happens in my home. If I want to have a drink it is no ones business, and if I want to light up a cigarette it is no one business. I have six kids and we make sure that we have ‘the talk’ about everything (drugs, sex, peer pressure, etc..) with all of the kids. What right does she have to interfere with that?
Maybe you can help me with this, I am not finding answers to my question of what a school counselor is allowed to ask your child at school.
Hi Renee, I feel your pain. You may call your school and tell them that you don’t wish your children to take part in these classes. They usually call this ‘health class’. I told them I wanted my kids in gym instead and it was done. They do not have the right to ask your kid a single question that you do not approve of. Neither does your doctor. They just act like they do in the hopes of intimidating parents into obedience. As they say, “Just say NO”.
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Thank you so much for this informative article. I have a daughter who is about to turn nine and I appreciate the warning. You have a wonderful blog that I have been enjoying.
Sharon,
thank you for your kind words. Yes, you will see the grooming at the pediatrician begin very soon. Believe me when I say that there are NO LAWS that can force you out of that room. You need to especially be careful of male pediatricians. There have been too many cases of sexual assault & rape w/ male pediatricians. You are lawfully allowed to say, “No thankyou. I will be remaining in the room for every exam.”
This just happened to me yesterday, my daughter turned 13 last week and it was our first time at this office. I questioned the doctor on this and she said that my daughter will fill me in on what she asked, I did leave the room, I let the doctor know that I was not comfortable with this but she said it is something they do now. I only left for a minute and got called back in for her to examine my daughter. I think next year I am going to go to a different doctor, but before I go will question what their practices are regarding well visits.
Victoria. The answer to your dilemma is simple. Just. Say. No. Don’t leave and simply tell them, “I realize that this is the standard of care- however, I do not agree with it. I will always remain in the room.” They have ZERO options other than to honor your decision. They can NOT deny you care at that point, neither can they force you to leave. Just be polite, but firm. Unless you get a real wacko like I did, you will be fine. Remember, Victoria, you are providing an example to your girl. If YOU are afraid of standing for your God given rights, then she will also be afraid. Embarrassment can not take the place of providing a safe doctor’s environment for our kids…good luck to you and be strong! I know you can! ;-D
Well, you are wrong on several accounts. Yes, I do have children, four of them in fact. Who have all grown up to be healthy happy productive adults. And No 99% of most parents do not love or care for their children. We have fostered way to many kids for us to believe that number.
But y’all just go on with your boogy man behind every door mentallity, and I still 100% believe that your kids dont tell you everything. They are just being normal kids.
Foster kids, huh? any of your own? don’t believe that the VAST majority of people love their kids,huh? And you think I have boogy men, huh? I’ll tell you one thing, Missy. My kids tell me the stuff that counts. They sure wouldn’t head out to tell a complete stranger before they tell me. Perhaps it is YOU that your kids don’t trust. Sounds like they went off and did things YOU didn’t know about. Perhaps YOU are glad they went to complete strangers for help because YOU weren’t around to help them in their time of need. Maybe YOU didn’t equip YOUR kids and so assume that the rest of us don’t. You are pushing your own failures on the rest of us parents. You sound bitter, my dear. But I’m not. And ALL the parents I know LOVE their kids more than they love the air they breath. I don’t know a single parent that wouldn’t die for their kids. Do you know how many kids 1% of the United States is? Alot. THOSE kids need to be fostered and there aren’t a lot of foster parents. Just because you earned money taking care of these kids doesn’t mean that you have experienced the MILLIONS of other kids who have loving, dedicated parents. Biki, I get a feeling that you are one of those people who LOVE free stuff that Progressives are promising. After all, you have already earned a living off of fostering kids. Why not more money from the government? You have an exceptionally narrow world view.
I will just say/ The proof will be in the pudding! When all kids reach a certain age their hormones will be making decisions instead of thoughtful consideration on certain matters. I am a high school teacher, and I see first hand the students that are expecting their first and second child. It has nothing to do with parenting, it has to do with the fact that children will test the waters. When a child makes a bad decision, it is not always the parents fault. That would be like saying that all serial killer parents did not do their job as parents. It simply means that an individual is making decisions on their own without necessarily telling anyone those thoughts.I have three kids, two adult and one still in high school. I have done everything I can to raise responsible kids. So far so good. But it is not over yet. I will have to wait a lifetime to make sure that my parenting and my children’s ability to make good life decisions on their own.
And I would like to leave a final thought, again, I am a teacher, and in the years of teaching, I can not tell you the children that have come to me to confide their suicidal thoughts. SOmething that they would not think of telling their parents. I can not help but think since it is not the coundelors job to listen to the children do we as teachers keep quiet about the students that open up to us and just let the potentially harmful actions take place. In my state, if a child makes me aware of harmful actions they are considering, we have to report.it. It could mean our job! So, what do we do?
Sorry to burst your bubble there Short Little Rebel, but it is a legal right in nearly every state for teens to get the help they need, without their parents consent. And while you might hate that law to pieces, its there for a good reason, to protect our children from misguided parents. Parents who dont want to believe their child is depressed enough to need help to keep from committing suicide. Who need help getting an abortion after their father got them pregnant in the first place. Yes, it is repugnant, but it does happen, and the law is built to help these children in dire need. What are you afraid of leaving your daughter a for a very few moments alone with a woman doctor? Are you really that afraid she will assault her sexually? Or are you afraid she will be exposed to topics you dont believe in, like abortion and birth control? If you think she doesnt know about these topics, you are very misguided.
biki,
sorry to burst YOUR bubble. First, you obviously don’t have kids. If you did, you would be infuriated that anyone thought they were more trustworthy than you.
Second, my kids ALL know everything there is to know about sex, abortion, drugs, depression, etc. Even my eight year old could pretty much describe menstration, erection, intercourse, etc. In fact, my kids are more educated in these areas than any of their friends. I believe in being 100% honest with my kids and never hide a single fact from them. HOWEVER, I add the human element to the cold, hard, facts. Things like, “Save your body for someone who LOVES you. No one feels good having sex with a stranger. And the person who LOVES you – rather than just your body- will want to MARRY you.” Which is true. Because I love my children, I advise them while I deliver these facts. This advice will, I pray, save them from much pain in their lives. I tell them right up front that if they get drunk at a party, CALL ME and they will not be punished. I tell them that if they get pregnant (or someone pregnant), TELL ME and I will 100% support them in everything they do. But I will most definitely advise them as a loving parent. Planned Parenthood will just schedule them gleefully for an abortion. For a 13 year old, that could have everlasting effects on their emotional health. I CARE and Planned Parenthood doesn’t.
Third, 99% of parents love their children as much as I do, biki. They are the best ones to help their children when they are in crisis. All these Progressives are doing is attempting to paint parents as the enemy. Because they want the children to fear the very morality that the parents will wish to teach their kids.
Lastly, about sexual predation. Your comment, “Are you really that afraid she will assault her sexually?” is so dumb that I know you don’t have kids- also you are lacking in logic. First, the law doesn’t care if the pediatrician is male or female. You can’t say, ‘if the pediatrician is female, it is ok to leave your 13 year old daughter alone with them in an examination room where they can be asked to undress, to be touched in their private parts, etc by a trusted adult’. No, you make equal laws for both sexes. Therefore, a law forcing parents out of the room is to endanger at LEAST half of the 13 year olds in America. AND of COURSE I worry about my daughter being sexually molested! Every parent does. The few who don’t are either stupid, ignorant or selfishly careless. Child molestation & rape are rampant- and guess who the perpetrators ALWAYS are? TRUSTED adults in trusted positions. Child molestors become teachers, Scout leaders, priests, coaches, and…Pediatricians. So, biki, you really need to grow up. You have NO IDEA what you are talking about. You are the product of the new public education system in America. YOU are the exact result that the Progressives have been working toward for the past 50 years. Congratulations.
I have always taken my son to our family doctor not a pediatrician. Not that it can make that much difference but since my son doesn’t have any particular issues a famlly practitioner is perfectly adequate. You were right to yank your kids out of that practice. I would have done the same.
When my son was in 6th grade they had this horrible “Life” lesson (can’t remember the name) for several weeks that included a workbook. It covered topics such as smoking, drugs, bullying, anger management, etc. My son brought the workbook home the first week (parents were not told this was being taught during English class, no less) and during class he had answered some of the questions in the workbook. I asked him who saw the workbook and he replied that he accidently brought it home, he was supposed to leave it in class. I told him NOT to fill out any other information. I called the school and wrote a note to the teacher informing them that while he had my permission to participate in the lesson, he would not be filling out the workbook and his grade had better not be affected. Then we had a conversation with him–which is reiterated each school year–do not relay personal information aside from name, address, phone # to any school teacher or administrator. It has become the norm for doctors, school officials to ask questions such as “Do you have guns in the house?” “Do your parents drink?” . We need to be very careful on so many levels. The goal of big government advocates is to take over the raising of our children and it’s up to us to say NO.
Freedom, I wonder when the school protocol changed from “If you keep doing that, Johnny, I’m going to call your parents!” to “Did you kids know that you can come to us for ANYTHING, including drug use, depression, suicide, thoughts of murder, abortion, contraception, etc and we will help you- AND we don’t have to tell your parents ANYTHING because you are legally protected FROM them.”? This is the message at school and they didn’t even tell us parents that they would be saying that- secretly- during their ‘drug & alcohol’ session.
They are being taught that the Institution is more trustworthy than their parents. We have become their enemy.
Good information! A doctor asking a parent to leave the room should be a red flag to any parent. Are most parents just agreeing to this without asking any questions? I find that deplorable!
[...] Now, Parents, I can tell you that I always told my pediatricians, “No. That will not happen with my daughter. I will be here to ensure that she is ok. “ They always were annoyed, but left it be. I have a new pediatrician who just told me that I MUST leave the room when my daughter turns 13- which will happen in August. I was enraged. I told her that this would never happen. Further, I asked her why she & other pediatricians kept demanding this. Please read the rest of Short Little Rebels post and experience with this at her site: Short Little Rebel [...]
I am going to have to repost this manually Susan, wordpress is not letting me do it. Nor did I get an email notifying me of your post my friend, this is getting terribly annoying. It is only thanks to Sami that I knew of it and I am so glad that he notified me!
Loopy, I think I am under some kind of surveillance via spy software. There are just too many little tricky things happening to my home computer, my blog, my FB, etc. Nothing works right anymore. Just wait until these Progressives get their hands ‘officially’ on the Internet! Please make sure that you have subscribed to my blog as a WHOLE and not just to an article. Susan
I am Susan and this is the second time in a week that I have resubscribed. I just checked my subscriptions and you are still not listed! Along with that they have unsubscribed me from a few others. I am going to fill out your email form my friend and see if it will work that way. I am almost to the point where I am going to leave wordpress, this is just getting to be way too much. If Sami hadn’t told me about your post I would have missed it and this one needs to be spread around my friend!
loopy, I sure hope we can get this ironed out. I’m not sure what is going on. I hope you don’t leave wordpress. There will be many who will miss you!
ok, apparently the black ‘Follow’ tag is at the bottom right hand corner of the screen. This will allow you to be an email subscriber.
Susan, do you have an email sign up form?
Loopy, I checked my followers and found you there. I checked the link and it works. Have you checked your spam filter in WordPress? Perhaps my name got in there? or my blog name? Or, you can check your internet spam filters for my name. As for an email sign up form, I’m not sure. I know I have people who follow via email. I’m not sure how that works. I’m going to sign our of wordpress and see what I see as a ‘stranger’. will get back.
So, when you are already signed into WordPress (is your blog a wordpress blog?), the Follow tag is in the upper left hand corner. WordPress obviously see us as either 1) not a word press user- when we are not signed in and will display an email ‘follow’ tag in the lower right hand corner OR 2) a wordpress member because we are signed in and will display the tag in the upper left corner. It will sign you up accordingly. If your blog is not a WordPress blog, then perhaps there are some issues with connectivity & communication? these folks are always changing the programming! I would write an ‘issue’ to the WP team. They are very good at fixing and/or responding to tech. issues! Susan
I am a wordpress blog Susan, and I have clicked both the follow button on top plus the space at the bottom of the post for following both the post and the site. Unfortunately even though wordpress is saying I am subscribed, I am not receiving emails when you post. I checked my settings and I am supposed to receive them, I just am not getting them. I even checked my own spam filter, but it is not going there either. That was the reason I asked if you had a separate email sign-up, some people do and I was going to try it that way as well. It worked with RJ at Real Christianity when I wasn’t receiving his.
I don’t know if there is a separate email function above & beyond what I told you. Have you reported the problem with WP? That might be the next step. Sometimes the Theme we choose has built in problems. These are usually identified on their help blog.
I am so glad that you went public with this Susan, parents need to be aware of what their rights are and that they are being abused to influence the children. This is horrific and demeaning to the parents and manipulating the children at a very vulnerable and sensitive time. God bless you my friend and I am going to repost this!
I would never ever leave a my child alone with anyone. This is so wrong. They are giving your child the okay to not trust your parents, but they are to be trusted. Has our country lost the sense of right and wrong. Just think what the Nanny state will look like if Obama wins another term. This is horrifying.
Muse, I agree wholeheartedly. The Progressive move to destroy the family unit is pervasive in their political agenda. That is why they are shoving homosexual marriage and adoption down our throats under the guise of ‘fairness’. Their true goal is to break our trust in God, the Family and each other.
That is deeply scary. Here they can give young teens contraceptive implants without telling parents. These are our kids, not the State’s.
Jessica, here is the scary truth: a 13 year old can’t get an antibiotic without a parent’s approval- but they can get an abortion, psychiatric treatment for depression, birth control & STD treatment with NO parental permission. do we have this backwards, or what? The REAL problem is the bullying being done in pediatric offices. This is SYSTEMIC and has been worked into each & every pediatrician’s office protocol. They are being taught in school how to ‘ease’ parents into accepting this ‘time alone’ with their 13 year old by ‘practicing’ it before hand on the younger children. They want to secretely tell our kids about Planned Parenthood (one of the ONLY doctors offices that will perform abortions on kids) and the secrecy they have a right to. They DON’T tell the parents that THIS is what they plan on talking to their 13 year old about BEFORE they ask the parent to leave the room. These people are the WORST of activists. They are, literally, using the sacred trust we place in them to help our little ones to further their political agenda.
It is an utter disgrace. Kick the rascals out!
Her intent seemed pretty sinister just from your account of that incident, SLR. I’m glad you left with your child. It’s unacceptable when kids are being taught to view parents as adversaries.
You are so right, Dope. Now I feel the responsibility to spread the warning to unsuspecting & trustful parents. If this was just one doctor, I would not think it a big deal. Sadly, THREE pediatricians in a row have requested this. THIS doctor is the only one to disrespect my wishes and lie to me about the law. This political activism & bullying of Americans must stop. And we are the ones to stop it!
Jeez, just unbelievable, well I wish it was.
NEO, this is an industry wide practice now. Counselors around the nation are likewise ‘informing’ our kids of their ‘rights’ to abortion, birth control, etc.
I’m not surprised, SLR. School counselors always did some informally, the difference being that their message reinforced the parents authority not undermined it. It had to do with needing to talk to somebody other than your parents especially when that relationship was strained.
This is a horse of an entirely different color, of course, and not to be tolerated. It’s just insane to further tear down the morality of this country. I’m as close to speechless as I ever get. Good thing you know what I’m trying to say.
smiles, NEO!