Calling ALL Women of America: Unite For This One Issue: RAPE

2a97fd7a297e613b5f8af79a1b98b6caI want to call upon ALL WOMEN OF AMERICA. Democrats, Republicans, Christians, Jews, Muslims, Atheists, Progressives, Liberals, Conservatives, Straights, Lesbians:  Every Woman of America. Let me say something here. There is one thing that unites us: Rape. Rapists don’t ask us about our beliefs or orientation before they rape us. They don’t care what we believe. Rape is not about sex. Rape is about male power and domination. It is about Hatred of women. It is a mental illness. I don’t hate men- I love men- most men are honorable and hate rape as much as we do. But I hate rapists. And I doubly hate the intimidation tactics that are used on women after they have been raped. I also hate how political parties try to use women as if we are children. Lastly, I hate that the legal system prevents us from ending rape effectively.

Rape has nothing to do with provocation. It has to do with mental illness and hatred of women. Stop calling women liars and whores.
Rape has nothing to do with provocation. It has to do with mental illness and hatred of women. Stop calling women liars and whores.

Listen, did you know that we outnumber men in America? Do you understand our political power in this nation? All we have to do is vote together and we can do anything we want! All we have to do is agree on something and it is ours. Ending rape is something every one of us wants for ourselves and our daughters.

I am sickened that women are called ‘liars’, ‘whores’, ‘attention seekers’ (as if we are little girls looking for our daddies’ attention!), gold diggers (as if we can’t supply our own needs!) when we dare to tell the truth about our rapes. Especially against powerful men. The law is against us! The law tells us that if we don’t report our rape after a certain number of years, then the rape didn’t happen! However, if we dare to even speak publicly about our true stories for the rest of our lives & our rapists don’t like it, they can sue us for millions of dollars!  Imagine that! And we can’t

Family members are often the ones to use intimidation on victims.
Family members are often the ones to use intimidation on victims.

counter sue them if our story is found true in the same courtroom! Is that justice?

Further, it is very expensive to even fight such a lawsuit.  If the man is rich, he can frivolously level such a lawsuit and if the woman is poor, then she can’t even pay for a defense- then his revenge is complete, indeed. We, the one whom he raped, will owe him millions of dollars for the rest of our lives, simply because we can’t find over $100,000 to defend ourselves in court against his dirty lawyers!  Believe me, I looked everywhere for a lawyer to take my case pro bono- ha!  Every defense lawyer wanted at least $20- $30 thousand dollars up front to even look at my case.  And the court won’t allow us to get that money back when we win the suit! It is lost forever. So, winning is still losing- and our rich, powerful rapist can still lick the cream off his whiskers!  This is called intimidation.  It is to silence you and me, Women of America.  And it works.  It works well.

Rapists don't show remorse or understanding as the years pass. Rape is SELFISH and self oriented.
Rapists don’t show remorse or understanding as the years pass. Rape is SELFISH and self oriented.

I ask you:  “Is that justice in America?”

More importantly:  Is that moral?

Why can’t Women counter-sue for pain and suffering if we win a defamation lawsuit against our rapist?  Why can’t we retrieve our lawyer fees if we win? Why are we hampered with a statute of limitation but our rapists aren’t?  Men will not fear suing us as long as they don’t fear a lawsuit in response should they lose.  In this way, they have legal power to keep us effectively silent.  They don’t have to worry about sullying their ‘good’ name after they have sullied our pure bodies.  Is that justice?

Rapists hate women. They don't care about your mind or opinions. If we allow them to splinter us, we will lose against them.
Rapists hate women. They don’t care about your mind or opinions. If we allow them to splinter us, we will lose against them.

Personally, I don’t believe in defamation lawsuits in general- they are a waste of time for our nations- most nations have stricken these laws from their books as such.  So should America.  This is the easiest path for us, as Women.  We must strike defamation suits from our laws.  We have free speech- let us speak- let our rapists speak.  That is fine with me.  If they are telling the truth, then let people believe them.  I don’t fear the truth or public opinion, do you?  Only criminals fear words.   I say, allow me to tell my truth about my rape- let my rapist tell whatever he wants.  Let the world decide what it wants.  Why does he fear this so much if he is telling the truth?  Why does he seek the legal system to silence me publicly?  What does he fear?  Why kill my free speech?  Just because it offends him?  People offend me all the time- there are at least three hate sites erected in my name!  Can I seek the legal system to silence them?  no.  And I wouldn’t want to.  This would stop being the America I love if I could.  Let me ask you, “Why should rapists be allowed to stop Raped Women from merely speaking about their Rape??”  Is that right?

Our SILENCE has allowed it to be against us. Our FEAR of being called all these NAMES has silenced us. Our FEAR of not being believed has silenced us.

Rape is about vulnerability and silence. That is why rape victims are so often young, given drugs, intoxicated and even murdered after the act. It is about Dominance and Power. Do not be SILENT. This gratifies your RAPIST.
Rape is about vulnerability and silence. That is why rape victims are so often young, given drugs, intoxicated and even murdered after the act. It is about Dominance and Power. Do not be SILENT. This gratifies your RAPIST.

WOMEN of AMERICA- forget my political or religious beliefs for just this one issue and I will forget yours. In this one matter, we must stand in solidarity. We must not become bargaining chips for politicians. No one owns us. We aren’t a ‘special interest group’. We are the majority of this great nation. Our will is THE will of this nation. What WE want is what we will get. By law. Let us combine our will power. I will stand for you in this mission when I stand in court.  They will skewer me with all they have- they already are.  I want you AT MY BACK. I want to FEEL you at my back.  I won’t let them make this about politics.  It will be about YOU and your voice.  I promise.

Then, they will have to listen. We are the majority. Don’t forget that. No one owns us. Don’t forget that either.

No more rape. No more silence. No more names. No more intimidation. We are not victims. We are not sluts. We are not liars. We are women who have been attacked by vile men. And we demand justice with ONE VOICE. And by God, we will get it this time.

The number one reason women don't report their rapists is fear of being called NAMES: a liar and a whore. I am enduring these names in court already. I will fight for ALL women.
The number one reason women don’t report their rapists is fear of being called NAMES: a liar and a whore. I am enduring these names in court already. I will fight for ALL women.

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* special thank you to Project Unbreakable, from whence these images originate.  Go to this remarkable project and give them your applause and support.  It takes amazing courage for rape victims to come forward.  I understand why some hid their faces.  It took me many years to tell my rape story out loud to private individuals, more years to tell it to strangers.  Even more to say it publicly.  There are many men who were raped as boys.  I invite these men to this fight as well.  My heart is with you, my friends.  For this one fight, let us put it all aside and love one another, shall we?  We are all hurting inside.  Perhaps, if we can love one another here, we will build understanding on other issues as well?  I offer this olive branch….

4 comments

    • I was a boy of 11 when I was raped. He was large, and I was 11. I was so humiliated that I mentioned this to NO one until I was 64 years old. At that time I was on the phone, talking internationally to a sibling (sister), when I suddenly could not contain it anymore, and I blurted it out. I cried. Yes, I had sat on it for more than 50 years. Even to this day I share it with but few. Later I told my wife, and again, I cried. I don’t recall if I told anyone else
      I remember as a young adult of hearing an adult saying that rape would be better if the victim is a female. I said NO! The only better is if it does not happen. Strangely, I remembered thinking as he was raping me, “Thank you God that I am not a girl; it would be so much worse!” My rapist died a year ago, and never apologized. That would not have helped me, but I would have felt a bit better toward him.
      SLR, My heart goes out to you and the numberless victims. God help us all to stand and withstand.

      • Oh, my DEAR!!!! Oh, my dear man. How my heart flies to you. I want you to be free of this pain. I wish you had told someone. Not even to prosecute your rapist, but to be free of the secret. THIS is why I am fighting my rapist this hard. He wants to silence not only me, but EVERYONE who has been raped. If I lose this case, then Bill Cosby will win HIS new defamation case that he has launched against HIS rape accusers. I had said it from the beginning, “If I lose this case, every famous rapist like Bill Cosby, will turn and sue their rape accuser for millions! It will create a new type of lawyer. Instead of ambulance chasers, we will have rape accusation chasers- it will be an ugly day in America.” Sure enough, just this last month, Cosby’s lawyers have created defamation lawsuits against several of his accusers. I have no doubt they got wind of my case and are watching it breathlessly. If I lose, Cosby will also win. If he wins, then every football star or basketball star or movie star or politician that was accused of rape will come screaming forward and will sue their rape accusers for millions too. And rape victims like you and me will be SILENCED forever more. You know the price of silence: Complete misery for all your life. That will now be forced on little boys and girls, on men and women everywhere BY LAW. Rape is very difficult to prove, especially if drugs were used. People also have a very hard time coming forward to accuse someone of rape- BECAUSE it is often someone they know. They feel like there will be terrible repercussions against them from their family and social connections if they come forward. They also feel that no one will believe them. If they wait too long (7 years or so), the statute of limitation says they can no longer prosecute their rapist. YET, according to the law, even though they can’t bring the rapist to a criminal court, if they even say that they were raped by someone, their rapist can sue them for defamation FOREVER. No statute of limitation on that ability!! Is that fair? I am fighting so hard to protect this right to SAY THE RAPIST’S NAME. It is the very LEAST form of justice that a rape victim gets. It is the MOST IMPORTANT FORM OF HEALING for a rape victim. Just talking about the rape is the most enormous relief! It is freedom itself to say it: “I was raped by Wil Riggins” “I was raped by….(You fill in your blank here).” That is YOUR TRUTH. I say my rapist’s name because it puts the blame squarely on HIM, not on me. I used to blame myself for the rape. I thought it was MY fault. But many years later, I understood that I had a right to my own body, I was sovereign over my body. NO ONE had the right to invade it like that. I am sickened to remember how someone dared to use me like a blow up doll. Carlton, thank you for coming forward today. May God, our Father, bless you today. May he lay his beautiful healing hand on your forehead and may he take your old pain away. It has been a long time, my friend. It is time to stop hurting. Your enemy is dead and he has already faced Jesus’ judgement. May you be comforted by the thought that he has seen heavenly justice for raping you and never apologizing. He is in the lake of fire right now and he will never be released from it. May the Lord in heaven wipe every tear from your tired eyes and I pray that He also instill in you a new Hope. I pray that the Lord gives me victory over my enemy in court so that everyone will know that he is God. And when they know he is God, they will be afraid of what they have done to their victims. They will know that they will see the same lake of fire that your rapist has already seen if they don’t repent of what they have done. I pray that when you see that God is God that your heart leaps in joy, Carlton. Because this life is short, thank God! And very soon, we will see him in a new body, a refreshed and tireless one and we will live, truly live with God forever. We will never tire, never be depressed and never be broken again because the evil one will be dead. I pray, Carlton, that the tears you have shed for your rape are the last ones you shed. Be as rest, now, Carlton, your rapist has paid for his crime and you still have the rest of your life to enjoy. May the Lord God bless you in the rest of it! May your life fruit and grow and thrive! I pray all this for you in Jesus’ wonderful name, AMEN! Your friend, Susan

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