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How to Answer, “Jesus Said Not To Judge!”

A young, Christian woman came to my Facebook page and felt that I was ‘judging’ men who watched pornography and homosexuals (both types of men who are sexual sinners who refuse to repent of their actions) when I said that God commanded us to remove these types of Christians from our church.  He said, through Paul, in 1 Cor. 5:

I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— 10 not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. 11 But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister[c] but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people.

My argument is this:  if we are to remove even Christians who do this from the Church, how are we then to tolerate non-Christians in our Church doing these things?  (I was questioning some churchs’ modern ideas of ‘the missional church’ that openly invites homosexuals into their church in the mere hope that Jesus will ‘rub off’ on them.)  This was my answer to her question concerning ‘judgement’ and ‘only God can judge’.

justification“First, you are using the word, ‘judge’ in a way that is improper. That’s the very first thing liberals do when arguing this point. I’m never sure if their hearts are in the right or wrong place, whether they are aware of their misuse or ignorant. But here’s why: ‘to judge’ obviously has several connotations in English. We can judge a beauty contest. Or we can stand in judgment of someone. We can judge between two people to determine who is telling the truth. We can judge to see if someone is doing wrong. Correct? Well, liberals love to take Jesus’ words, “Don’t judge” and automatically insist that it means the ‘don’t look down upon’ every time.  But, you must look at the whole sentence, in context, to fully understand Jesus’ meaning.  Matthew 7:

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

6 “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces

You have to look at Jesus’ whole statement to see which kind of ‘judge’ he meant, right? It actually changes as he talks.  And then, what does he mean by removing the log out of our eye and then, not throwing pearls to dogs? It’s all one complete thought.

In the first paragraph, Jesus means to not down upon another human being because we, too, are flawed.   If we do this, God will do the same to us.  Scary.

plankeyeThen, he says to remove the log from our own eye before removing the spec from our brother’s eye. Now, Jesus begins to talk about the proper way to judge. We must look first to our own sins and make ourselves as clean and humble to the Lord first before we try to point out sin in our brothers. This can’t happen in a moment’s notice, but through prayer, contemplation and repentance of our own before we dare approach another.  Therefore, no bursts of anger, no insults, and no put downs will do.  And I believe that a serious look at your own motive for approaching the other person in the first place would be in order as well.  Approaching another person in their sin is sober and serious business and needs to be carried out in full understanding of one’s own sins.

But, notice that he did not say to leave off the judgement, he just said to check ourselves first. Then, ‘help’ our brother. This encompasses the last two kinds of judgement: between two people or whether or not someone is sinning.  If done properly, what you have done is a loving thing, a helpful thing.  It is necessary, even if you suffer for warning them.  And you probably will.

Then, lastly, don’t throw pearls to dogs and pigs. Here, Jesus tells us that some people won’t listen to our fair and just judgement (pearls) in any case.  They will decide to do whatever they want, whenever they want, and don’t care what Wisdom, Truth, Honor, or God has to say in the matter. Jesus is pearlscalling these people ‘dogs and pigs’.   He tells us to not bother with these people anymore. Just walk away from them or they will tear us apart if we keep trying to help them.

So, it IS still a Christian’s job to judge. But not in the sense you just used. We are to see if someone is sinning. And if so, we are to tell them. If we don’t tell them, God told us that he will literally blame us for their spiritual death. Did you know that? See these verses from Ezekiel 3:

17 “Son of man, I have made you a watchman for the people of Israel; so hear the word I speak and give them warning from me. 18 When I say to a wicked person, ‘You will surely die,’ and you do not warn them or speak out to dissuade them from their evil ways in order to save their life, that wicked person will die for[b] their sin, and I will hold you accountable for their blood. 19 But if you do warn the wicked person and they do not turn from their wickedness or from their evil ways, they will die for their sin; but you will have saved yourself.”

It is the loving thing to do. In fact, every Christian today knows that we risk terrible things to inform homosexuals of their impending death and ruin. We will be shamed and ridiculed in this world, not them.

You say people are born that way. They weren’t. I don’t believe that at all. There is too much evidence against that.   First, there are those men who once had wives and families.  Ditto for so-called ‘Lesbians’.  Then, there are the studies that prove that 90% of gender confused kids return to their biological gender identify if left alone.    Further, almost all the stats show that homosexuals have a higher incidence of errant and self-destructive behavior outside of sexuality. They have a higher drug use rate, abuse of alcohol rate, domestic violence rate, suicide rate, depression rate, etc. In other words, they are people who were vulnerable before they made this choice. I truly believe that homosexuals become homosexuals through choice, because they were deeply unhappy about other things to begin with.  They were seeking answers, comfort, something… anything.

Did you know that the average homosexual man has 100-500 sex partners in their lives with significant percentages having lovers well over 1,000?  These are men who are continually seeking instant satisfaction through sexuality.  Statistics from gay activists themselves show that almost every ‘committed’ gay relationship ‘allows’ each other to have outside sexual relationships, such is their need for stimulation?  That’s why they pick men.   Women would never agree to such promiscuity in relationships.  No other reason. And lesbians have a super high rate of having been raped, beaten or otherwise abused by men in their lives. They are hiding in lesbianism due to fear of men more than in love of women.   This, I believe, explains why most ‘lesbians’ can so quickly be ‘bi’ or ‘straight’ and get married later in life.  Women are just the fall back position when they are lonely or in rebellion.  There are reasons why this population is into drugs, alcohol, and counter culture, but it isn’t because they were ‘born that way’.   It’s because it is a lifestyle that offers comfort for the immense pain they are in.   The problem is that it doesn’t relieve the pain long term, and in fact, makes it worse.  Hence, the suicide rates.  CHRIST is the answer they were seeking.  He is the answer everyone is seeking.  They just don’t know it.  Everyone is just born as little, impressionable babies. How they grow and how they are raised affects so much.

Lastly, you say ‘all are welcome to believe’. I wholeheartedly agree! But they, literally, aren’t part of the church. By definition, the Church IS the Body of Christ. That is all of us, gathered together. Any unbeliever is not of the Body, by definition. Just because they stand next to us doesn’t make them part of the Church. They have to believe to be part of the Church Body. Do you understand that concept? This concept must be carried forward in our Church buildings and gatherings too, I believe. It encourages the Body and keeps it strong. We go out from the Body, as Christ commanded , and witness to the World, as I do here. We bring back into the Body, those who have chosen to believe.

Does that mean we cruelly kick a stranger from the Church building? No. If they wandered in, let them stay. It must be God’s doing.  Can people bring a homosexual to church as part of their ongoing witness?  Of course!!    But, we shouldn’t have an official policy that says, “Welcome Homosexuals” into our church; there should be no rainbow flag flying over our building. That is out of control and the church can quickly become just a building of false believers. Who’s to say what percentage are believers and what percentage is not? Where is the strength in that?  How does that influence the young?  How does the preacher teach from that point forward without being a hypocrite? That is my point. I truly believe we should ‘go’ as Christ commanded us to go.  I think only satan would change Christ’s command to say, ‘sit and market for them to come’ instead of ‘Therefore go and make disciples of all nations,’ to us. It might sound small, but I think it is ruining the modern-day church.

I know this is a very, very unpopular idea in churches today.  But it is biblically sound.  I don’t believe Jesus or the Apostle Paul thinks we should be exclusive shrewds.  But the Body is the Body and nothing can change that definition.  Even God wishes all could be saved.  How could we not also?  It is natural and good to feel a yearning and a deep love for all who are lost.  But that yearning can’t lead us to be arrogant before the Lord.  We can’t decide to change his commands because we feel we are more loving and wiser than He, can we?  It is painful to carry out God’s commands!  But just think of this:  if it hurts us, how much more does it hurt God, who loves people far more than we could ever love them?  But he has his reasons and I, for one, trust in him with all my heart.  I encourage all of you to do so as well.  At the bottom of all God’s commands are total LOVE.


“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”- John 3:16


  1. My comment is unrelated but I wanted to tell you something. About four years ago, on your original Facebook page you reached out to me. We have almost nothing in common and I doubt you’d care for my lifestyle but those years ago you offered me unbelievable support, you listened to me, encouraged me, and made me feel very loved and cared for. I don’t know if you remember anything like that but I wanted to say thank you for being there for me, despite our differences. A million blessings to you, Susan. Thank you.

    • Hi Grateful, without knowing a little more about the details of our interaction, I can’t remember it but I can tell you how happy you are making me right now. I am joyful that I was kind enough to someone that they remember it four years later. Of all that I have done here on my blog, I have no doubt that Jesus would consider my kindness to you that day as a crowning achievement. Why else does a Christian live but to give love to others? Jesus told us that all of the commandments given to human beings in the Bible (there were hundreds) could be boiled down into only two: love God with all our hearts minds and soul and love our fellow man as much as we love ourselves. If we can just do those two things, we are doing alright by God. Thank you for sending your note back to me! May I ask how you are doing right now? Don’t think your ‘lifestyle’ is a turn off to me. I don’t live in a vacuum of purity! lol. I live in the world like anyone else. I am not perfect by any means. My only wish is that everyone should know Jesus and the freedom he brings like I do. He once said, ” if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” God bless you also, Susan Shannon

  2. Thank you for taking a scriptural stand on a very combative issue.
    I think you are correct in saying we have to take a hard look at our own hearts (log) before we wade into this battle.
    Many Christians who would condemn homosexuality, have not dealt with their own sexual impurity.
    Men who would look on with disgust at men having sex with other men have a totally different view of pornography that presents women with women.
    Not to mention numbers of Christians both male and female who view pornography, have sex outside of marriage and live together before being married.
    Dealing with these issues will give us clearer vision to deal with the issue of homosexuality and a pure heart that Jesus can work through.
    It does not mean we can’t speak to this issue when we are invited into the conversation, we are all a work in progress.
    But we cannot point the finger without a willingness to confront or own sin and deal with it.
    Unless we want to live up to the description the world is so fond of assigning to us.
    I believe you are absolutely correct that we must judge the sin in our lives and others but not the person.
    Great explanation concerning casting your pearls before pigs and dogs.

    • Thanks, Message, you are very right. So many Christians will hate you if/when you point to divorce and remarriage. So many Americans are actually living in adulterous relationships according to Jesus. Their divorces aren’t valid because their spouses didn’t commit adultery, which is the only reason Christ gave for a valid divorce. Thus, according to Jesus, any remarriage is considered adultery- or causing the wife to commit adultery (if the man left the woman). They refuse to confess it as sin and ask for forgiveness and yet, they are very willing to point to others. I have a friend who used other reasons to stop being my friend but in reality, it was because I mentioned this idea (not even toward her!) that she wished to stop being my friend. She would be the first one to condemn a woman for abortion. We all sin and have to be very careful when addressing the sin in others, that is for sure. And I, as a writer, must be sure of my own sins as well.

  3. Susan has “nailed” this. So many Christians back down when confronted with this “argument” simply because it has never been explained to the Christians on “how to argue back.” Susan has presented this in a clear, concise manner that should be reread a couple of times and “Saved” to study later!

  4. Reb, some excellent points. There is but one who can judge an individual’s eternal destiny, and that is Jesus Christ. We, as the body of Christ are called to make judgements all the time. As a pastor, I am called and charged to make judgements all the time… how can we assist if a judgement is not made, how do we determine how to assist a brother or sister get from where they are to where God may want them, if judgements aren’t made. Probably one of the more misunderstood concepts in the church today is the idea of judgement.

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